I just got done reading a book called Detour, my bipolar road trip in 4-D. It was given to me as a gift from a friend who is bipolar also. I was very intrigued when I saw it and had to read it right away.
This post is not a book review, although I will say I loved this book. This post is some of my thoughts after I read the book.
In this book, the author Lizzie is on a road trip to find her “herd”. People who are bipolar just like her. But she wants to find successful bipolar patients. She drops everything to go on this road trip.
I have thought since I was first diagnosed how this disorder almost isolates you from the “normal” people. I’m blessed to have one friend that is a “bipolar buddy” but we don’t really talk about it. I know, however, if I needed her she would be there in a heartbeat. My family doesn’t really understand what I go through, Hell I don’t even understand most of the time. And I don’t dare mention it to the people I work with because they are mostly all back stabbing women.
That being said I have really felt isolated when it comes to being bipolar.
I’ve thought about seeking out a support group, but there isn’t one listed for miles and miles. I created online support groups, but its hard to make people talk. I’ve even thought about creating a local support group, but taking on this task by myself scares the shit out of me.
Stigma sucks. Why should I be afraid to own a part of me. In the book it says somewhere near 70% of people have a mood disorder…and the statistics have probably increased since the book was written. That’s a lot of damn people. Not to mention people who havent been formally diagnosed. Depression, bipolar, anxiety etc….
Why is it that when people hear bipolar, they automatically think “crazy”? I’m not crazy. I’m what they call high functioning. That title both makes me feel like dirt and feel special at the same time.
First of all I don’t want a label. But if you have to give me one, why give that label? On one hand, high function sounds awesome! On a scale from low to high, high is great! But on the other hand that gives the impression that I could be non functioning. It sets the bar low for me. If people expect me to fail, then maybe I will.
I don’t take the title of disabled. I have the diagnosis and that’s it. I don’t consider myself unable to work, even though working is more difficult for me. I wouldn’t dream of going on disability for this, unless things got ALOT worse.
Am I really alone in my thinking? I long to feel connected to someone or many someone’s that share my thinking but I don’t know the first step in finding these people. I long for the companionship of someone who understands this aspect of my life.
I know I’m not alone, but if I can’t own my bipolar-ness due to fear of being judged, then how can I connect with anyone? I can’t.
So here’s my pledge: I will try each day to own this, in some way. But all of you out there that understand how I’m feeling, you own it too! maybe if we all own it, stigma will start to go away.
You can start owning it by getting in touch with me. Lets ban together and stop feeling so alone!!